My two favorite emotions are lucky and enthusiastic

by Tracy on July 6, 2009

Or, I’m in no hurry to clean chicken curry

photo credit: kaibara87

photo credit: kaibara87

Yes, that’s right, we had chicken curry for dinner and I’m in no particular hurry to clean it. Love basmati rice, hate the way my kids drop it all around the table. Bleh.

So, while I wait for the rice to dry out a bit so it doesn’t stick to the broom I thought we’d talk about my feelings. See, last week I had the most amazing bit of luck, I entered the 12kfor12k raffle to benefit UNICEF and won five free sessions with my life coach Tim Brownson! Isn’t that amazing? Look here, that’s my name at the top. It’s spelled wrong, but that’s okay, usually they put the “e” in O’Connor so the “e” in Tracy was a refreshing change.

I was walking around feeling incredibly lucky and just bursting with joy of it all and then I made the mistake of telling a funsucker about it and sent them the link to the prize page. And they were all “Hey, didn’t you already have coaching? Why didn’t you ask if you could swap prizes? Look, you could have won a chandelier! Or an iPod! That kind of sucks that you won something you already had. Oh well, at least it was for charity.”

Excuse me? Hello! What kind of weird reframing of an incredibly amazingly positive experience is that? Think about it, what were the chances of me winning anything at all? And then to win the very prize I’d been having oodles of fun joking about winning all day? Practically zero! But I did it and thus I am incredibly lucky. Yes, I could have won something I didn’t already have, but it wouldn’t have made me laugh nearly as loud. The older I get the more I realize there’s not much better than those laughs that start way deep down in your belly and go on forever and that’s what I won (plus I now get to email Tim all my junk  guilt-free for a long, long time and won’t have to post them in my blog. So really, we all won, except Tim). How on earth could I have been luckier?

The point is I love feeling lucky and will find any reason to feel that way and I won’t let anyone get in my way with their “logic”. Or “math”.

enthusiastMy other favorite emotion is enthusiastic. I don’t know if that’s really an emotion. Heck, is lucky an emotion? Who knows, doesn’t matter, they both feel very emotional to me and that’s what counts.  I read a great book called The Enthusiast by Charlie Haas last week. It’s about a guy that works at various magazines devoted to niche hobbies like spelunking and tea and kite buggies. Um, yeah, I still get lost when I try to do reviews, my idea of one is this: This book was good; if you like books that are good and make you laugh and don’t suck and you aren’t totally stupid, you will like this book. I do and I have excellent taste.

Or, you could read this eloquent review on Fritinancy. Don’t read any more that that though, because she writes really well and has interesting subject matter and frankly I don’t want to lose you to her. Okay, read this post on Spants, you really have to read that, but then stop reading and come back to meeeeeee!

After reading the book, I got to thinking how much energy I get from people who have a passion and aren’t afraid to show it. You’re just talking to them, and even if you have no idea or interest in what they are going on about, you can’t help but be swept away by how good it feels to be genuinely excited and devoted. Tickled pink, my Dad calls it.

You know, it always baffles me when I meet somebody who is just gosh darned determined to hold back on showing enthusiasm. Or worse, is embarrassed by other people’s enthusiasm. Why? Isn’t enthusiasm one of the best parts about being human after the ability to bake pies and quilted toilet paper? I’m sure people have their reasons, but seriously, go ahead and be doofy. See, the thing is, you can act like you don’t care to try and forestall disappointment or embarrassment in the future but what I’ve learned is when things don’t work out no matter what I’ll feel some disappointment and probably some embarrassment, too. So why deprive myself of the joy of just throwing myself all out into it?

And this is the funny thing, the more I go for things with enthusiasm and gusto, the less the setbacks get me down. Not sure why that is, but it makes me feel pretty damn lucky.

(Note: Amazon affiliate links in the post, if you buy after you click, I get a portion of the sale.)

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Danny Brown July 6, 2009 at 9:31 pm

Hey there Tracy,

First, thank you so much for supporting 12for12k during our event, it’s very much appreciated! And congrats on the Tim Brownson prize (despite other’s misgivings!!) :)

Sorry about the name spelling – I think I took it from the email address used on the ChipIn donation widget, but I’ll get it changed now (and try and keep other wayward letters away too!!) :)

Thanks again, your support means a lot,

Danny Brown
Founder, 12for12k.

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BunnygotBlog July 6, 2009 at 9:34 pm

Hi Tracy,

When you have a passion for something, the set backs or that dreaded “f” word
( failure) becomes mediocre. Besides it is all a part of learning.
I learned to surround myself with happy upbeat people, their influence strengthens my enthusiasm and jest for life.

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Tracy July 6, 2009 at 9:48 pm

Hi Danny! No worries, it’s sort of a running joke that nobody spells O’Connor correctly so having Tracy spelled wrong gave me a giggle. And honestly, I probably did spell it wrong myself.

12kfor12k is a wonderful organization and I love how easy it is to give and the information you give on how much good just $12 can really do. Wasn’t Tim awesome to donate such a great prize even if he wound up stuck with me in perpetuity?

Hi Bunny! You are absolutely right, it makes such a difference to surround yourself with upbeat people. Positive energy is contagious.

MadFab July 6, 2009 at 9:49 pm

Ye Gads! Charlie Hass is apparently writing about my life, only with the wrong sex as the lead.

Who are you, Charlie Hass, and why must you torment me by fictionalizing my life (and presumably profitting from it)?

And yes, there will always be those who are determined to be the dark cloud of despair inside your silver lining. Fear, mostly, and envy. It’s difficult to see someone who has obviously ignored the meme that says life is haaaard and unfair and unenjoyable and that you can’t have what you want. They are scared to take chances or to live life on their own terms or to step outside their own miserable comfort (or comfortable misery) and choose instead to heap disdain and judgement on those of us who are having the time of our lives, laughing, dancing in fountains and pretty much making up our own rules. Forgive them and believe that every once in a while, you sheer exuberance cuts through fog and inspires one or two of them to take a tiny chance and move toward living a life of unfettered joy.

Richard Fenno July 6, 2009 at 9:56 pm

Charlie Haas is a very cool dude who used to write for some of “real” niche publications and screenplays. This is his first novel, and us graduates of UCSC are very proud of all his accomplishments, this one included. He lives in Oakland, California on purpose.

Guy July 7, 2009 at 4:13 am

I do think it was hilarious you winning, especially after all the ribbing we did. Almost as funny was me winning a meet and greet with a band I have never heard of, on a different continent!!

I have spent a week trying to picture Tim trying to reframe, the loss of a potential new client with 5 more sessions with you!

I almost feel sorry for him…

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Tim Brownson July 7, 2009 at 5:21 am

I have often thought of having you stuffed and mounted. That way I could point new clients toward you and say “Emulate that women!” I’d then have to explain I don’t mean go and get stuffed or even mounted on a nice plinth, but to reframe crap into good stuff and good stuff into brilliant stuff whilst remaining positive throughout.

I bet the women who was condoning you thinks she’s a realist .

@ Guy – Shutcha face ya southernshandydrinkingnancyboy.

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Danny Brown July 7, 2009 at 11:21 am

Haha, are the comments section always this much fun??? Consider me subscribed! :)

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Vered - MomGrind July 7, 2009 at 11:57 am

That WAS weird, backward reframing of something great into something not so great.

Congrats. :)

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Tracy July 7, 2009 at 12:04 pm

Hi MF! That’s the whole reason I ordered the book quicksmart after I read the review on Fritinancy, it reminded me of you!

You always have such positive things to say, that’s why I’m glad we’re on this boat together. (Sorry for “On a boat” earworm)

Hi Richard! Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I bet it was super fun to go to school with Charlie. Or you know, go to USC at all.

Hi Guy! Snort. You made me laugh about the whole thing all over again. Really, not to be sanctimonious, but donating the money is such a feel good experience in itself that anything else is pure gravy. Delicious, full fat gravy.

You know what would be an awesome charity auction? Auctioning off the rights to choose what different bloggers have to write about. Like we could make Tim write about “How to use NLP to talk to your bowels so your bowels will listen”

Hi Tim! You know what it is? For two years I had to go to this ultra conservative Fundamentalist school and youth groups, etc. And they only movie that they’d let us watch besides the ones where everyone is swept up in the Apocalypse was Pollyanna.

I could have wound up all fire and brimstone, but I chose Pollyanna. <–that’s poignant right there.

Hi Danny! They used to be really dull but now that we’ve got some Guy posting in the comments, it’s party central!

I understand if you must now unsubscribe for pun.

Tracy July 7, 2009 at 12:06 pm

Hi Vered! I think some people have this weird talent for backwards reframing. You tell them you won the lottery, they immediately say “Well, it will only be 600K after taxes”.

supergranny July 7, 2009 at 12:39 pm

WOW, really grooved on your blog..I so like the ‘conversational’ style of writing. The comments are delightful…have to say it again…how lucky and enthsiastic you are..could we have your attitudes put on a scratch and rub (probably not the sniff thing)?

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Kristin T. (@kt_writes) July 7, 2009 at 2:33 pm

I’m with you—I love any story that ends with the question “What are the chances of THAT?” Not to mention that life coaching doesn’t seem to fit into the category of “something you already had,” any more than love, hugs, sex, therapy, a massage, or any other number of things we benefit from again and again. Who is this funsucker, anyway? Does he/she tell his/her partner “No thanks, I’ve already had sex once, so I’ll take a chandelier instead”??

I’m also with you on “how much energy I get from people who have a passion and aren’t afraid to show it.” I guess that’s a big part of what being a true extrovert is all about—deriving energy from others.

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MadFab July 7, 2009 at 2:41 pm

Shucks, ma’am. I think we tend to cheer each other on. I bet you still have the Go Group dance mix on here somewhere, don’t you?

Kristin, I think the other thing these funsuckers (my dyslexia always twists that word into something much more entertaining) lack is the understanding that gratitude for the blessings in one’s life—large and small—brings more and more blessings. My life is rich, full, brimming, overflowing with abundance and love and joy and amazing opportunities. And I recognize and am grateful for each one.

Tracy, who has already benefitted so much from life coaching—and has grown so much in just a short time because of it—now gets the chance to gain even more. And that’s unlucky . . . how?

Perspective: use it or lose it. (Apologies to Richard Bach, who is probably at this moment, writing a fictionalized version of my life as well.)

Tumblemoose July 8, 2009 at 12:22 am

Treacy the only thing mo funner than reading one of your posts is reading all the comments!

@Tim: “Guy – Shutcha face ya southernshandydrinkingnancyboy.” Oh man, that is just crackin’ me up! Umm, Guy? I believe the floor is yours…

Cheers!

George

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Online College July 8, 2009 at 9:37 am

I feel sorry for people who feel the need to rain on someones parade. Just because you won something that you already get? That just means you are saving money that is always a good thing.

Kim Woodbridge July 8, 2009 at 4:29 pm

I usually come here to laugh but today I got some awesome words and phrases.

1. Funsucker – I know so many people like that.
2. Backwards reframing – perfect

And, sorry, but was this a prize for Tracy or a punishment for Tim? ;-)

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Kim Woodbridge July 8, 2009 at 4:30 pm

Oh – and I love couscous but what a pain in the butt it is to clean it up. Even with just one kid …

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Natural July 12, 2009 at 6:16 pm

i, like you, never win anything and would have been happy to win anything. if i already have it, well then i might sell it and turn a me a little profit and buy something i don’t have. how bad is that.

i like being around people who are enthusiastic about something, but not loud about it. a quiet but noticeable passion i guess.

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