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Baby Needs a New Pair of Shoes…
It’s funny how life changes affect our priorities by insinuating practicality into our once carefree way of living. Because let’s face it, Life B. C. (before children) is pretty damn carefree.
Gone are the days of buying meat at the grocery vs. buying that hot new pair of boots. Now, we have people to feed other than ourselves who may actually voice displeasure at a week of ramen noodles with a side of tinned tuna fish.
As mothers, spending on ourselves is often seen as frivolous or shallow particularly if we seem to enjoy it. After all-what of the higher calling? What better way to honor our children than to join the Motherhood Martyrdom that forces women to forget that indulging in something from the B.C. era (before children) can be practical as well as therapeutic.
For me- nothing quite fits the bill as a new pair of shoes. No-not the Tar-jay flats but the shoes that you wear when your destination does not involve sticky fingers. I call these shoes “Big Girl Shoes” and one pair is all anyone needs to find that little piece of herself that may have gone missing.
Putting on a pair of Big Girl shoes is as much about finding that person that you once were as it is encouraging yourself to continue the individual growth that everyone needs to be a better person and dare I say it-mother.
So many women cloak themselves in a veil of motherhood at all costs-but before we were mothers-we were individuals and the secret is-we still are. Raising little people is about remembering the person you once were as well as the person you are becoming.
So the next time that you pass by a shoe store, stop in, look around and find a pair. You just surprise yourself on where the shoes take you. And you just might see me trying on a pair right next to you.
Queenmother is a slightly frazzled but well shod mother of three boys 6,4, and almost 2. Her love for her children is rivaled only by her love of a good pair of Jimmy Choos but on a bad day-she usually calls it even. She attempts to justify her shoe purchases by selling homes but again-she usually ends up breaking even. Married to a work-a-holic albeit wonderful husband who secretly wishes she would sell more and shop less, she enjoys reading, writing and what else-shopping for shoes.
You can read more of the Queenmother’s writing at her blog, The Tarnished Tiara.
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You and Kiki McPerfect should join forces. There are so many ill-shod, less-than-awesome people out there who really could use a little guidance. What a force the two of you-combined – would be. *sigh*
What a wonderful message!
I am in awe of Kiki. I am afraid that I might be McAverage compared to her McPerfectness. Yet-I will continue to study her ways.